I’ll say this much, visualize the life you want for yourself and figure out how to create it. ask yourself, what brings you joy? what angers you? what are my goals? what are my hopes? who do i love? who loves me? what do i love? write all that shit down somewhere. Consider this the essay outline on your life. then start connecting dots between all these things you’ve got down on paper, formulating a plan for making it all work. Like a business.
you sat there in school for like what, 12 years? You can’t spend a few hours planning your life? Remember in college how you would sit there and write a research paper? Spend hours on that shit, proofreading and all that jazz? You need to do that with your life. What, you need a teacher to grade you for you to step up to the plate?
This life shit is all mental.
you have some pre-conceived notion of what your life is supposed to be. Maybe it came from your parents, friends, society, etc. that’s all bullshit. what do YOU want your life to be. When you wake up, what is it you specifically want to be doing.
There are flat out things you can control. Not everything, but some things.
you look in the mirror, “Fuck, I’m 20 pounds overweight. What am I gonna do?” How about control your hand so it doesn’t feed you so much. you’re saying you’re so weak that you can’t control your own hand with your mind and tell it to not put that donut in your mouth? Really?
what if a college professor was grading you on what you ate? Would you pass or fail? ”But I don’t have time to exercise,” you say. Well, what other dumb shit are you wasting time with during the day? Eliminate that. Have some accountability for yourself. I’m just using weight loss as an example. Set goals. Be hard on yourself. No excuses.
I read about the Navy Seals recently. The things they go through. Seriously some of the most physically/mentally challenging stuff there is. Navy Seals literally get pushed to the extent of losing their lives in training. That training makes them like a machine. If you put in even half that effort, you will see amazing results. In anything you want to accomplish. How far will you go?
I’m not excusing myself from this either. I just know I’m very hard on myself. And there’s still lots to do to get “there.” but I know I had a vision at some point in recent years, and I did this exact same shit I’m talking about, and now this vision is reality. it took almost 10 years, and a shit load of failure. Lots of failure.
How you deal with that failure is what’s gonna make things that much sweeter. How down can you get? How low can you go? What’s the bottom?
What are you willing to risk for the life you so desperately want? For me the answer is this— everything. - @paulcantor